Me (25F) matched with a man (24M) on hinge and he was the one who wrote first. His first text was literally “so when are we moving in together?” and in our hinge conversation he was very flirty and seemed determined to win me over. We added each other on instagram shortly after and dmd for like three days straight until we met up on a date on sunday which he had planned out carefully. He was really sweet but a bit more awkward irl compared to text.
After the date his flirtyness in dms went down a bit which i think triggered me in some way. I asked if he wanted to meet again on wednesday after work and make dinner together which he agreed on. It went well and even if the awkwardness was still thetr on his part he actually initiated to cuddle me on his couch and walked me to the uber and gave me his jacket bc it was cold. He also offered me to stay over but i declined because i had work tomorrow morning and it’s far from his area.
On friday i asked him if the offer to stay over was still valid and he said yes but that he will need to get up early in the morning for work on Saturday “if i’m okay with that” and i said it was fine. I stayed the night there and he cuddled me until we fell asleep but didn’t try to kiss me or do anything sexual.
Two days later i told him i felt like he was giving me mixed signals and he told me he likes me, thinks i’m pretty, kind and funny but hasn’t felt any spark. He told me he’s conflicted because on one hand he doesn’t want to continue something that’s at risk of not leading anywhere but he also don’t want to throw it all away this early on because the spark might grow over time. Also the reason he never tried to do anything sexual is because he would feel like he was using me if he did, since he probably understood that i like him more than he likes me and it would make him feel like an asshole. He also said he has some mental health things going on and that he felt like he may have rushed into dating too fast. He asked me to give him some time to think.
This was one week ago and we haven’t spoken since then. I want to text him so bad because i hate being stuck in the “what if?” phase. But i’m also scared of what he might say because he either says he wants to try again or that he wants to stop talking and i’m scared of being dumped by him.
The reason i’m so obsessed with him is because i find a man attractive like twice a year or something and he has the whole package in my opinion. He’s handsome, sweet, thoughtful, dresses well, isn’t someone who parties a lot, has real hobbies, reads books, has a clean home, career ambitions etc…
